Horn Bar

August 29, 2007

Lemon drop

Filed under: comfort foods

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I ate dinner with Mom & Dad at the Lemon Drop tonight.

That tiny diner has been there since 1954, and although I grew up in Anderson, I’d never set foot in there until tonight.  Debbie says that her dad ate there the day Mike Lemon opened the doors in January of 1954.  I’m not sure what he ate, but odds are, it was a burger off the same flattop grill I got my double cheeseburger (on white toast) from tonight.  I couldn’t believe how small the place is, but I suppose it is spacious by 1954 standards, although, I don’t think anyone was dancing by the jukebox on opening day.

I suppose the oldest restaurant in Anderson served many General Motors employees over the years, due to its close proximity to many of the plants.  I’m not sure that the Mounds Mall across the street has helped it much.  I think the mall will close before the Lemon Drop will.  I think it almost did a couple times.   The Lemon Drop seems to have survived the exodus of GM from Anderson, but looking around the diner tonight, I wonder if its charm will translate to the next generation that doesn’t share a history with it.   Hard to predict, but then, I’m only six years younger than the diner, and granted, I’ve been living out of state since 1983, but I only today discovered "the Drop".

Then again, as we settled in at the horseshoe-shaped counter, I noticed a family of five sitting in the corner, and  I thought that, perhaps, I was witnessing the culinary passing of the fork to a next generation.  The three young boys seemed to be having a good time, and I think they finished their burgers, if not most of their fries.

I hope the Lemon Drop is still around when those boys decide to take their families out to eat in twenty years, or so.   I know that this young boy certainly enjoyed his dinner with his parents at the Lemon Drop tonight, even at the ripe old age of forty-six.

Maybe we’ll have breakfast at "The Toast" tomorrow morning.

Or better yet, this fall we’ll eat at the Triple XXX root beer stand and family restaurant in Lafayette, Indiana, near Purdue, where my mom’s mom used to flip and grill burgers in the late 1940’s.

http://www.triplexxxfamilyrestaurant.com/index.html

I just love eating out in nice restaurants.

August 21, 2007

hugworthy

Filed under: Cornu Copia
Debbie emailed me today from her new job teaching three year olds.   I liked these two thoughts enough that I decided to excerpt them as blogworthy.  We’ll work out the royalties later.
(from "Miss Debbie" )….
The best part about teaching preschoolers is the unexpected hugs that you receive. Love it. Truly unconditional love. They like something you say or do and they come up and hug you. You don’t expect anything in return. They don’t expect you to remember that they did something special. Purely just in the moment. I think that is probably close to what Christ meant when he said we need to become as little children to enter the Kingdom.
Funny thing said today, "I don’t have hair under my arm, but my daddy does."  Went into a whole conversation about who had hair where and why. It was pointed out by one of the kids that some people have the hair, they just shave it. This was in the lunch room as we were lining up to leave. The other teachers were laughing their heads off!! Didn’t sound like that funny of a conversation to me. Just observations of a 3 yr old.
thanks Miss Debbie.  This will be an entertaining school year.

August 19, 2007

sow

Filed under: Cornu Copia

It seems like everytime I go to plant a thought in my blog, it grows into a wild meadow of random musings that seem to ramble on as far as the eye can see, but is eventually contained within its original boundaries, and ultimately arrives back at its origin, but now with a slightly different perspective.

or it could just be that I ramble.

August 18, 2007

Cornball

Filed under: Cornu Copia

This is one of the reasons I moved back to Indiana.

Friday night, and Debbie and I traveled to some town, yet unidentified, nearly an hour North of Noblesville to see her son, Sam, and his Lapel Bulldogs play the Tri-Central Trojans on the opening  Friday night of the 2007 IHSAA football season.   The Indy Star, and 1260-WNDE had been hyping a couple other games all day, like Cathedral vs. Carmel, but I couldn’t have been a bigger fan than I was at this game.  Yeah, I was a homer in the visitors’ stands, rooting for my girlfriends’ son, but I haven’t enjoyed a game like that in some time.  And it didn’t suck that Sam, a sophomore Safety, was one of the mainstays of the Lapel defense tonight in their 27-7 win.  He had several key tackles, and only missed an interception, when the receiver desperately swiped at the ball in Sam’s arms at the last moment, knocking it to the turf.  Great defense by the offense.  Sorry;  I got caught up…

As I sat in a visitors’ bleachers that featured more fans than the home side, I found myself cheering, fist-pumping, and turning around to comment to the guy behind me, who I’d never met (it’s a guy thing), on all the remarkable plays.   I think I may have sounded convincing as a real Bulldog fan, and I’m surprised that no one asked which kid was mine, although, several Mom’s asked Debbie if she was Sam’s mom.  But I suspect that had more to do with planning the weekly team dinners that the mom’s schedule and prepare, than to comment, woman-to-woman on the actual play.

I remember early in the 1st quarter, when I saw the 16 Tri-Central cheerleaders in a tight pack, heading around the surrounding track toward the Bulldog bleachers, and I commented that it looked like a rumble was imminent.  Sadly, they only did a goodwill cheer that was barely audible or memorable.

I was humored by the home-team band that was outnumbered by the pack of cheerleaders.               But they played valiantly, and the Band Director looked heroic atop the press box, as he directed his band of farm-kids playing in the clearest field in the county.

I found myself praying in the stands late in the 4th quarter when a Tri-Central kid was taken off the field on a stretcher wearing a neckbrace.  And I was concerned to think that I might not find out how he turned out.  And I felt guilty about my impatience to get him off the field, as there was less than five minutes left to play in the game, and I have to work Saturday morning.

But the game finally ended in favor of Lapel, and the team gathered and treated us, the traveling Bulldog faithful, to a somewhat rousing rendition of the Lapel fight song.

As we pulled out of the Tri-Central High School parking lot, onto the mile long gravel road that bisected two cornfields, and led to Highway 19, I looked around, and was somehow reminded of the closing scene of "Field of Dreams", where the camera pans up, and you see streams of headlights in the dark heading toward Ray’s field.   I thought of how we had arrived tonight, driving in a virtual high school caravan up Highway 19, into farm country, and had driven through the tall August corn to the opening that was an Indiana high school football field.  It may not have been a field of dreams, but I couldn’t shake the feeling that this evening was truly a genuine slice of Americana, and it was happening in my home state.  Even if I didn’t have a clue what town I was in.

And this is one of the reasons I am so glad to be back home again in Indiana.

I can’t wait to see a basketball game this Fall at the Wigwam.

August 13, 2007

Dog and Pony show

Filed under: Cornu Copia

(pictured…Grandpa Ora in 1918, and my mom, Jeanette in 1948)

 

Today was a very nice Sunday to be off from work.   Yes, it was over 90 degrees for like the 27th day in a row, but it was a good 92*.   Debbie and I drove out to Westfield to see her brother, John, his wife Lisa, their adorable three year old Nicholas, and 4-week old Cassandra.   Little Nick was so cute when I introduced myself, and said, "It’s nice to meet you", and he gave me a great big 3 year old hug and said, "I missed you!"  I didn’t remind him that we’d just met.  I couldn’t spoil the moment.

John lives on 13 acres in a beautiful 108 year old farmhouse, and they have four horses rotating four fields of their homestead.   We got to spend some time feeding them horse treats (which Debbie had in her car….don’t ask), and petting  wherever it is you safely pet a horse.  I never quite figured that out, so I petted them like I would a dog.  Except I couldn’t get them to roll over so I could scratch their bellies.  Of course, one similarity between dogs and horses is that, if you pull a treat out of your pocket and give it up, you will have the dog or horse in your pocket until you vacate the property.      They are relentless.  And it tickles.

So between horses nuzzling the pockets of my cargo shorts, and sweating up a 92* lather on their coats, and then rubbing up against me, I was probably smelling a little horsey the rest of the day. 

Which was confirmed later.

Much later, when I got home, I saw that the neighbors in Mrs. Adairs’ old house behind us were working in the yard.  Mrs. Adair hasn’t lived there in maybe 20 years, but when you grow up in a neighborhood, and then go back, every house remains identifiable by the neighbor who lived there the longest through your childhood.  And in the case of Mrs. Adair, there is a longstanding family joke involving dear Mabel and brother Kirk, who as a youth, came running into the house, and was seemingly five minutes into his story before he got to the part about Mrs. Adair falling in the yard, and who was, in fact, still laying out there.  She came out of that incident alright, but this story always comes into play when one of us is telling a story, and invariably gets sidetracked into trivial detail and periphery that does little to arrive at the point of the original story currently being told.  It’s called a "Dirk" story, and…well, it’s kinda hard to explain.

So what was I talking about…..

 Oh yeah, since we hadn’t yet met, I introduced myself to the couple, and their very large Great Dane, Laser.  As we talked, Laser was very friendly and let me scratch his ears.  But I didn’t ask him to roll over for a belly rub.   We noticed that he was really sniffing my pants, and I explained that I’d been on a farm with horses, as well as, three other farm dogs, so Laser was surely getting a virtual country farm potpouri of fragrances.  But when I mentioned horses, neighbor Mike knew why Laser was so interested.

Mike and Laser used to live out in the country a few years ago, and once, for two weeks, Laser went missing.  Finally, they found him at a nearby horse farm.  He had been running with the horses for two weeks, and didn’t really want to leave.  And apparently, the horses liked running with the big dog.  sorry, I couldn’t resist.  Bad joke, but Mike said that the story is true, and I know he wouldn’t lie.

Wow.  I just remembered that when we had lunch at Arby’s today, Debbie mentioned that she really likes their Horsey sauce.  Coincidence?  I don’t think so.

So those were some of the highlights of my Sunday today, which apparently carried some sort of horse theme, much like Sesame Street today being brought to you by the letter "J", and the number 7.

Stand by for the Super Grover revolution, which starts August 20, 2007.  Elmo is going down.

August 8, 2007

Oscar……and the pharmacist?

Filed under: Cornu Copia

ok, so I’ve been carrying this story about my Grandpa and Oscar for years, and always believed my Grandma Hilma, who had once said she thought Ora’s real dad was a Southern Indiana farmer of Native American Indian decent.  I guess I should have asked my dad or his sister.  But that would’ve been too easy.  Aunt Rosemary says that Ora’s dad was a pharmacist named Harrison.  I was close.

And all this time, I’ve been telling people I’m part Indian.  Guess that was just in high school.

August 4, 2007

Oscar

Filed under: Cornu Copia

(pictured at left, Great-Grandma Dora and Great-Grandpa Oscar)

My name is not Hornocker.

It’s not that I’m an international spy, or in witness protection, or even adopted.    Although, I am the only one in my immediate family with blue eyes, and a name that does NOT start with "K".   Hmmmm…

It’s a family story that spans four generations, and begins with my dad’s father, Ora.   Ora was born in 1897, in Southern Indiana.  I was never quite clear, and perhaps Aunt Rosemary can clarify, but either before he was born, or shortly after, the genetic father left the scene.   However, while Ora was still an infant, Oscar Hornocker became involved with Great-Grandma Dora, and they were married, and although there was never an official adoption, Ora received the name Hornocker.

I remember back when Grandpa was nearly ninety, I was driving him to the store, and I had been interested in geneology and family ancestories, so I ask him about the identity and background of his "real" father.  Grandpa became very agitated, and exclaimed, "You’re a Hornocker!  Oscar Hornocker was the best father a boy could ask for, and that’s all you need to know!"   I chose not to pursue that line of questioning at that point.  

By 1930, he had wed Etta, and bore Albert Monroe Hornocker, my dad, and later,  my Aunt Rosemary.   My dad, Al, had five kids, including two boys, myself, and brother Kirk.   Kirk has three beautiful girls, and I have lots of wonderful nieces and nephews, but no kids of my own, despite twelve years in a Detroit marital intitute.

It has occurred to me in recent years that, unless Kirk or I produce a son, the borrowed name of Hornocker will fade out after a relatively brief three generational stay in Lafayette and Anderson, Indiana.   Kirk is done having kids, and I don’t see it happening to me at this point in my life, so it seems unlikely that another Hornocker boy will extend us to a fifth generation.  Which is a little sad, because, in my forty-six years, I have never run into another person named Hornocker, so it’s not like the Smiths or the Jones’ are losing a vital branch to the family tree.

Actually, I have met one Hornocker.  Earlier this summer, when I first moved back to Indy, I went to a meeting for all the Starbucks store managers in Indiana.  I met the manager of the Starbucks in Speedway, which is only five minutes from my store on the near-westside, and his name is Adam Hornocker.   We both asked our families, and it turns out that Adam had a relative related to Oscar,  so we are sort of related.  But perhaps not by blood.

So I’d like to somehow thank Oscar Hornocker, and his kin for letting us borrow their name for a century and a half, give or take.  I’m proud of the name, and I don’t think we’ve muddied it up much under our watch, other than the whole Purdue connection.   I’m somehow reminded of what John F. Kennedy said to a frenzied crowd in Berlin back in 1960-something.  But unfortunately, my German name is borrowed, so I don’t "Spechen zi Deutch".  But it was something like…..

"Eich Bien Hornocker!!"

Grandpa was right.  I’m a Hornocker, and that’s all I need to know.

August 2, 2007

Comfort Foods

Last weekend, I went to a BBQ party with 20 or so high school friends, and a few scattered spouses.  Not all that unusual an event, except that we all graduated from Anderson High School in 1979, and outside of the random reunion, most of us hadn’t seen one another in over 25 years.   And yet, there wasn’t an awkward or unfamiliar moment the whole evening.  Well, maybe a little bit when Chris’ husband disappeared for an unannounced 45 minute walkabout, but that’s another (yet untold) story.

 My point (and I do have one, as my sister says…) is that, despite most of us having lived varied and largely unconnected lives for most of the past quarter century, the conversations and comraderie between us came together quickly, easily, and comfortably.  You’d think that we wouldn’t really know the adult versions of each other, but that didn’t seem to matter, because of what we all had in common.  The bonds of friendships borne out of the memories of high school.   No matter where we’re at today in our lives, we have the common connection of those times, stories, and memories, and that connection is like a gravity that keeps us grounded in the comfort, safety, and security of our timeless friendships.  We all know each others’ "stuff", or at least the stuff from when we were kids.  We’ve seen each others’ grade school pictures (you’re welcome!), but we sorta remember how goofy we looked in first grade already, so it’s ok.  But it’s fun to look back.

I recognize it’s no coincidence that I’ve spent alot of time reconnecting with old friends in the past three years since I received an early release from my 12 year marital sentence in Detroit.   I never developed any friends my age in Detroit, although I did have some very close, but younger & single friends from my days in the restaurant business. And clearly I wasn’t that close with my ex, as I came to find out.    So I began to reach back to the comfort and safety of old friends, initially for therapy, and gradually for reaffirmation of my self-worth.  And by the way, thank you, if you were on the receiving end of one of my one hour therapeutic phone calls that summer.  The good news is, I’ve gotten my divorce-victim story down from one hour, to about 20 seconds.  Baby steps…

But I digress.    

The evening before the BBQ at Betsy’s, I called Kim Irby, who hadn’t heard from me since 1980.  We talked for nearly an hour, and I remember telling her that it was a testament to true friendship, when you can pick up a conversation with an old friend after all that time like you never left off.  I have alot of friends like that.  And I like that.  I treasure that.  I hope you know who you are.

Perhaps it’s another non-coincidence that, as soon as I moved back "home" to Indy, I reconnected with, and have been seriously dating Debbie from our Class of ‘79. Of course, she’ll never let me forget that I had to look her up in the yearbook to recall her face, but then I’ll never forget that face now.  It’s only natural that I’d end up dating, and God willing…,well, we won’t go there just yet, but it makes sense I’d be together with an old friend with a shared background.  The safety and comfort of old friendship has allowed us to cut through alot of dating junk, and open up our relationship much more quickly than, say a blind date. 

So for the 20 of you at Betsy’s BBQ, it was great to reconnect with you, and for those who couldn’t make it, I hope to see you at the next party.  But for all of you, I hope you can look back, and find room in your schedules, and your hearts to email, call, have lunch, toast some beer or wine, or in your own way,  reconnect with an old friend of yours from back in the day.  It’s no substitute for the good stuff you have in your current lives, but then again, there is no substitute in the present for the bonds we created back then.  Don’t ever take those memories for granted.

Screen Saver

Filed under: memory run

               
                                 Screen Saver
 
I was thinking about computers and home fix-it projects
recently as I was chaulking my bathtub and re-screening
doors and windows in my condo.  If you had told me a month
ago I’d be able to do that, let alone know what spline is,
I’d have laughed. But then again, I did install a sump pump
all by myself last fall.  And it still sumps.  Or pumps.
Or whatever it’s supposed to do.

I was telling someone at work today how I don’t really know much
about computers, but I’ve puttered around enough, and asked
enough questions that I can do what I need to do, and look
suspiciously like I know what I’m doing.  Like creating a groupsite.

Neighbor Ken thought I was crazy to try and re-screen on my own,
but I figured it out, and they came out fine.  Still working on
perfecting the bathtub chaulk, but I’ll figure it out.

I remember growing up and watching dad fix ceiling-hung lights,
clotheslines, leaky ceilings, sliding doors,  garage doors, and
countless lake cottage issues, as well as, constructing study
desks in our rooms, and barns outside.  

All this, while readily admitting that he didn’t start out as a
very "handy" guy.  He just taught himself, or asked enough
questions to make it work.  And now we all consider him
to be extremely handy.  And resourceful.

The other day, as I was chaulking in the bathroom, I moved the wrong
way and smeared chaulk all where I didn’t want it, and as I turned to the
sink to grab a rag, I caught a look at myself in the mirror, and I
saw that I was making the "Al face", with my bottom lip all scrunched
up into my top lip.  In my head, I heard the words, "Becoming your dad",
and I kinda smiled, cuz it reminded me that I am, or I have already
in so many good ways, the most recent involving home/condo repair
and computer navigation.

So Dad, thanks for passing on such resourceful and handy genes,
and don’t worry about the computer stuff.  In the end, it’s as easy
as re-wiring a hanging light in the dining room.  

Except I may not be able to stand there and hold your PC steady
while you work on it.

love you, pop!!!     jb

August 1, 2007

fish kisses for Christmas

Filed under: memory run

 

 

I heard a song the other day, and it made me smile.Nothing unusual there, I guess.  That happens to us all the time.Songs take us back to a time, a place, or a person.
	
But I was at work, and amid a plethora of endless Christmas songs, I heard"Oh Holy Night", and it made me smile, and gave me a chill.  I even chuckleda little.And then I felt guilty for laughing.  But that’s part of the memory.
	
When we were growing up, one of the family traditions was to open theChristmas presents on Christmas Eve,and then go to Christmas Eve church service.   Kirk, Kris, & I were usuallyso wound up from Christmas festivitiesthat we couldn’t sit still.  Especially in anticipation of "Babs" doing hersolo of "Oh Holy Night".In Barbara’s defense, she sang a lovely solo.  It’s just that when you’re akid, you find humor in dumb things.When Babs hit the big notes, her eyes got really wide, and her mouth was aperfectly large round "O".For some reason, that sight just tore us up, and we could not contain ourgiggling, much to the consternationof Mom, and the serious congregation sitting around us, who constantly gaveus "the look".They made us feel as guilty as you can make a kid that maybe we were ruininga wonderful Christmas moment with our laughing.And yet, every time we heard Babs sing, we had the same reaction.   Thosedarn Hornocker kids!!!
	
Yesterday, as the Horn family got together for Christmas, someone asked my 21/2 year old nephew Zachary to do "fish Kisses",and I was reminded of a new Christmas memory.  Last year, we went toChristmas Eve Service with Mom & Dad, and Kris brought her twins. Sadly, Babs was no longer there, but as I sat in the pew teaching Zack tomake "fish kisses" with his mouth, and making him giggle along the way,it felt like an old memory coming back.  Something passed on to the nextgeneration.
	
Thirty years ago, somebody in the pew behind me gave me dirty looks, cuz Iwas fooling around at church during Christmas.How dare I giggle during church.  If I didn’t pay attention, I’d miss thelessons and meaning of Christmas.
	
Well, I’m 40+ years old, and to this day, whenever I hear "Oh Holy Night", Ismile and I’m awash with a feeling of love and great family memories of manya ChristmasI spent with my brother, sisters, parents, and now my nieces and nephews.I don’t  feel guilty anymore, and I don’t really think I missed the lessonsand the meaning of Christmas afterall.
	
I hope you all have cherished family memories to laugh about when you gettogether over the holidays.
	
Merry Christmas…Horn

 


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