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November 20, 2007

six pack

Filed under: Cornu Copia

When Debbie told me that her mom, Dixie, had read my "Beer Run" blog, and her only reaction to my 1000 word-plus essay was to the seven words  "…quality time spent with someone you love", I was initially a little disappointed…as a writer.

She told Debbie, "Aw!  He said he loves you!!" 

At first, I thought she missed the good parts, but then I realized that she didn’t miss a thing, and in fact, she nailed the point of the blog exactly.   You just can’t sneak one past a mom.

Happy six month anniversary, Deb. 

November 7, 2007

Beer Run

Filed under: comfort foods

 

There are TV commercials where the guy runs out of beer, and makes a halftime dash to the party store, and makes it back home with cold beer before the second half kickoff.

 This isn’t that story.

Last week, an old friend of Debbie’s, knowing her appreciation for a good beer, brought her a couple of bottles from a microbrew in Lexington, Kentucky.  www.kentuckyale.com

Kentucky Bourbon Barrel Ale is locally brewed beer aged in old oak bourbon barrels, and has the good taste of a good amber ale, along with the hint of the bourbon from the old oak barrels.  Perhaps not a desirable combination for a Bud or Miller Lite drinker, but  the beer was delicious, and Debbie and I  decided we needed to track some down.  We got the website from the label, and found that the closest distribution point of sale was near Cincinnati, in Covington, Kentucky.

As it turned out, we both had Saturday free, and a two hour drive on a beautiful fall day would be fun, so we left Lapel Saturday morning on our journey.   After a brief stop to load up on caffeine at Starbucks in Anderson, we headed out through the Indiana fall countryside, enjoying  what remained of the autumn leaf color change, as well as the many weathered farms and barns along the way.  I’m not sure if llamas are indigenous to Indiana, but we did pass a llama farm at some point.  Or were they Alpaca?

I hadn’t been through New Castle since I was in high school, so I didn’t know that there was a "Steve Alford All-American Motel" on Highway 3, with a giant basketball shoe in the front lawn.  I’m assuming that Steve does know about it.  As we passed through New Castle, I spotted a liquor store, and I wondered aloud if they might carry the beer we sought.  But I quickly commented that I would not want to find it here in New Castle.  The search and the journey were the objectives of the day, and the journey would be incomplete if we didn’t make it to Kentucky, at this point.

I don’t recall what time we arrived at Party Town, the mega-party supply store chain we had found online, but aside from the huge selection of bulk party favors and supplies that I breezed by on my way in, they had one of the largest selections of beers from around the world I’ve ever seen, outside of Sam’s in Chicago. www.samswine.com  It didn’t take me long to find the Bourbon Barrel Ale, but I lingered and browsed along the many regional beer aisles, and even stumbled onto a six pack of Carib Beer, a Caribbean beer I had enjoyed with a group on a beach on St. Marteens while on a cruise last February.  I warmed to the memory, until I wandered into their extensive walk-in beer cooler.

My sister, Kristin, had lived in Cincinnati years ago, and I called her on my cell to tell her I was near her old stomping grounds, and to tell her husband, Mark, that I’d found a beer he’d love.  She recommended that we should eat dinner at Montgomery Inn for ribs on the Ohio River.   When we checked out at Party Town, we asked for directions to Montgomery Inn, and the locals told us, if we wanted ribs, we should go to the local place, Walt’s Hitching Post.  So we did.

The original log cabin foundation of the building was built in the 1800s and is one of the oldest buildings in Kenton County. Story has it that two sisters converted the log cabin into the Hitching Post Restaurant in 1938, then sold it to Walt Ballinger (hence Walt’s) in the late ’40s. Bill Melton purchased the building from Walt’s widow in 1958 and kept the name while adding more dining rooms.  Sadly, Bill passed away this past spring, but his daughters continue to run the restaurant today.

It didn’t take long for us to realize that we were in for a memorable dining experience.   Our server, Judy, had to have been in her mid-sixties.  I say this partly because  she looked it, but mainly because she told us that she had been a waitress there for forty-two years!!  When we told her that we were from out of town, and this place had been recommended to us, she took control.

She said, "Well I’ve been here 42 years, and I know what’s good, so let me tell you what we’re gonna do.  You (Jay) are gonna order the Prime Rib, and you (Debbie) are gonna order our famous ribs, and then you’re gonna share them."   We didn’t dare defy her, so we agreed to her demands, and even went along with the suggestion of their reknowned white cole slaw, and their home fried potatoes, and sauteed onions as side dishes.

When another couple was seated after, but near us, and Judy took their orders in a more subdued and traditional fashion, I asked why she hadn’t told them what they were getting, and she said they were regulars, and she knew what they always got, so they didn’t get the Full-Judy.

In the end, the dinner was decent, but the atmosphere and experience were more than memorable.  As I walked toward the lobby door, a lady in an odd cowboy hat declared that she had just returned from a fox hunt.  Not sure I ever heard that in Detroit, but it might be normal thing in Northern Kentucky.  Nevertheless, it reminded me of a joke about a fox hat that I’ll save for another day.

The homeward trip was relatively uneventful, but Debbie and I talked the entire way back, just as we had on the way that morning.   It hadn’t mattered that an electrical short had disabled the radio awhile ago;  we wouldn’t have turned it on if it had worked. 

I thought about a new TV commercial for a family van that boasts that this van will bring traveling families back in touch with each other, by virtue of the multiple DVD viewing screens, and individual headphones.   Hard to imagine that previous generations were forced to ride in family cars that were not equipped with multiple DVD players, and families may have had to actually talk to each other.

(editor’s note….I can’t figure out why the font size changes at this point in this blog, and I can’t figure out how to change it.  The large font size has a unintended alarming effect.   It reminds me of when my oldest sister sends emails, and always uses ALL CAPITOL LETTERS.  I find myself excited, and hanging on every word, yet exhausted when I’m done reading.  Not that I’m not excited to read her every word.   Aw geez….where was I?)

Along the trip, Debbie and I talked about how friends and family might react to our four hour beer run. The search for the beer may have been the end game objective, but the day was more about the journey, the memories created, the laughs and smiles shared, and most importantly, quality time spent with someone you love. 

We had a free day, and there may have been much more productive and responsible things that we could have done, but if we had stayed home, we wouldn’t have seen llamas, or Steve Alford’s big shoe motel, or falling down fall barns and leaves, and we would not have met Judy in her 42nd year of waiting tables, who told us that she would be burning her Bengals jersey if they lost on Sunday.    They did, so she probably did.

On Sunday, we were invited to watch the Colts vs Patriots game at friend’s house.  On the way, we realized that we should have brought some beer for the hosts, but the beer stores were closed.          We hadn’t thought of that on the Saturday beer run.   So we grabbed a pizza instead.  

We may not have had beer on Sunday, but we couldn’t help but smile, thinking about our memories from our Kentucky beer run on Saturday. 

November 1, 2007

2739

Filed under: Cornu Copia

wow.  Time slips away.  More so, as you get older.  Has it really been nearly a month since I blogged?  Has anyone actually noticed?!?

busy.  tired.  sick.  distracted.  doing life.  overbooked on committments.  trying to make progress in my move to the second half of my life, while I can’t seem to get that one foot out of the first half.

But there must be a plan, so I march on in faith.

I feel pulled in several competing directions for my time, between work and a 45 minute commute, my committed, and ever-growing relationship with Debbie, my now-local family, a leadership roll in Young Life, and supporting two different high school football teams.   I can’t wait for high school basketball to start up.  Wow.  Imagine if I had kids.   Oh….I guess you don’t have to, since most of you have your own kids, and you’re probably thinking, "Welcome to the real world, Jay; we’ve been doing all that for 20 years"!

 How do you all do it?!?  Do you lose your sense of self?  Sometimes I just need a little "Jay-time".     I suppose it comes down to choices and sacrifices for what is really important.  

It might help my peace of mind if I wasn’t still paying a mortgage on a Detroit condo that will not sell in a dismal real estate market.  I’ll probably pull it off the market for the winter, and re-list it in the spring.   So now I have a lovely vacation home in Harrison Township, Michigan to visit, if I get time.  If you’re interested, I have a wide block of rental time available from December to March!     

Meanwhile, to avoid two mortgages, I’m staying in my childhood home in Anderson with Mom and Dad, and commuting to my Starbucks in Indy.   At 46, it’s a little tricky stashing 30 years of my stuff, as well as my independence, into storage while I try and figure out where and when I’ll be headed into the next direction of my life.  And my childhood room at 2739 is a little smaller than my condo in Michigan.  I’m living out of seasonal Rubbermaid containers, but not necessarily color coded.

But the blessing in all of this is that, since 1979, I’ve lived away from my parents and family, living in Bloomington, Chicago, Houston, and then Detroit, with a brief stop in Indy.  And all that time, I hoped I’d eventually get back home to spend time with Mom and Dad, and NOT regret having left them, and the rest of my family behind for so many years.

Now I’m living at home with them, and everyday I get to bring Mom the morning paper, or a bottled water.  I get to cut the grass I cut as a kid to earn money to buy my first green Schwinn Stingray.  I’m sleeping in the bedroom I dreamt from in my youth.  I help dad with the dinner dishes so he doesn’t trash out his back.  Or the three of us go out to dinner together, as you may know, if you’ve read my previous blogs.   And when I leave for work, or Lapel to see Debbie, and I say goodbye or goodnight, I know that I will see them again in the morning, not months later at the next family holiday get together.

And Mom and I still say "Love you forever" to each other, but now we say it in person.

I’m not entirely certain how the rest of my life will go, or even the next six months.  But sometimes you have to trust in faith that there is a plan, and watch along the road for signs.  But most importantly, I try to remember to live in the moment, and appreciate what is in front of me, and not dwell on the uncertainties that lay around the bend.

Time slips away, but I have really good stuff happening in my life right now, and I wouldn’t change a thing. 

Well, except maybe my condo could sell, and I could get that last foot out of Detroit.

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